Rooted in love: the power of listening

Scripture

James 1:19 - “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”

Reflection

Listening is a powerful act of love. In a world filled with noise, opinions, and the constant rush to be heard, the simple act of truly listening has become a rare gift. Yet, James reminds us that being quick to listen and slow to speak is essential to our walk with Christ. Listening allows us to connect deeply with others, to understand their hearts, and to bridge gaps that words alone cannot.

Consider the times you’ve felt genuinely heard—how did it make you feel? Being listened to validates our experiences and affirms our worth. When we listen to others, especially those with whom we may disagree, we open the door to empathy and understanding. This doesn’t mean we must agree with every perspective, but it does mean honoring the person behind the words.

Story

A touching example of the transformative power of listening comes from the life of Fred Rogers, the beloved host of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood. Fred Rogers was known for his remarkable ability to connect with people, especially children, through genuine, heartfelt listening.

One particular story stands out: A young boy with severe disabilities was brought to meet Mr. Rogers. The boy was so anxious and overwhelmed that he began to hit himself, unable to express his feelings in words. Instead of reacting with shock or discomfort, Mr. Rogers gently approached him, sat quietly by his side, and offered his full, compassionate attention.

He didn’t rush the boy or try to force a conversation. Instead, Mr. Rogers waited patiently, creating a safe space where the boy felt seen and accepted. Over time, the boy calmed down and began to engage, even offering Mr. Rogers a hug. This simple act of attentive presence allowed the boy to feel valued and understood.

When asked about this interaction, Fred Rogers emphasized that listening is one of the most profound ways to show love. By simply being present and attentive, without judgment or the need to fill the silence, he was able to connect deeply with someone who desperately needed to be heard.

Application

This week, let’s challenge ourselves to practice the art of listening. When conversations become heated or when we encounter someone with a different viewpoint, let’s choose to listen first. Offer your full attention without planning your response. Ask open-ended questions and genuinely seek to understand the feelings and perspectives being shared.

In our church community and beyond, being a listening presence can transform relationships. It can heal wounds, build trust, and lay the foundation for genuine connection. Remember, listening is not just about hearing words; it’s about engaging with the heart of the person speaking.

Let’s embody Christ’s love by giving others the gift of our attentive ears. By doing so, we not only honor them but also reflect the listening heart of God, who hears our prayers and knows our innermost thoughts.